Lesson 2: You are allowed to make decisions!
I cannot recall the last time I had the confidence to make decisions—small or big. All I can remember is that throughout my whole life, what I decided was mostly wrong, or at least, would not be appreciated. Ah, in this endless cycle of validation-seeking—I am trying my best to stop this habit, I swear. In Indonesian, we have this suffix called kan. Although it is supposed to be a suffix, it performs as well as a word which, under common circumstances, has a similar meaning as ‘told ya!’ Whenever you don’t follow a guide or forget to do things as what was reminded or not believing someone's words, when something happens to you, people will use that word. kan udah gue bilang. (told ya!) kan udah kubilang. (told ya) kan. (told ya!!!!) And so on, the list is endless. Funnily yet, that is the word I get most of the time when something I decide does not turn out to be what I expect. I honestly hate that—not the result, but the response. Unfortunately, it is beyond my job to con...
